Andrei Weddings has experience with wedding cards, and has seen hundreds of such cards. Today, we’ll tell you what to and what not to write in a wedding card.
1. DO congratulate them, then personalize it
This is one special occasion, so you would want your card and the message on it to reflect that. To give a more sentimental and thoughtful note to your congratulations, add a second phrase on the card.
Some ideas to enhance your congratulations:
Congratulations! We wish you a long and happy life together. Many congratulations are in order for the extraordinarily thoughtful couple!
What a wonderful and happy occasion! Congratulations. We are so happy for the both of you, congratulations!
2. DO mention something specific about the couple
Customizing your message on the card shows that you pay attention to their lives and care about them. You can reference your relationship with the couple or express your excitement for their ceremony destination.
To the hardest workers we know: Tying the knot in sunny Florida then a honeymoon in the Maldives? You two deserve it. Congratulations!
3. DO mention the gift you gave them (unless it’s cash)
You could explain why you gave them that gift or express excitement about how they’re going to use that gift once they’re married.
For example: We were so excited to buy you these dog-patterned kitchen accessories — and hope Fido loves them, too!
4. DO mention a famous quote about the joy of starting a life together
You can write about the feelings that unite the couple and that will ensure the couple’s endurance.
Here are some examples: „Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife.” (Franz Schubert)
„Neither man nor woman is perfect or complete without the other. Thus, no marriage or family, no ward or stake is likely to reach its full potential until husbands and wives, mothers and fathers, men and women work together in unity of purpose, respecting and relying upon each other's strengths.” (Sheri L. Dew)
5. DO attach a photo with you and the couple and write about
a memory you have together:
Find an appropriate photo of you with the couple and write about the moment the picture was taken.
Think: To our favourite couple: After many years of double dates and wine nights, we couldn’t be happier for you two!
1. DON’T use the card to make jokes
There is a time and place to be funny-wedding card aren’t one of them. Writing an embarassing memory about the couple may come as disrespectful, not appropriate and may demonstrate lack of taste. Instead, you could write something from you heart.
2. DON’T mention the amount of money you gave them
When writing a check or offering cash to the couple, there is no need to mention the amount in the card. They can see the number on the check or they can count up the cash themselves. If mentioned, this would only draw attention to yourselves, when it should be on the gift.
3. DON’T write just your name
You should never simply write your name without a personalized message in the wedding card. This can come across as lazy and it isn’t genuine. If you confront yourselves with writer’s block, stick with something classic and traditional, such as "Best wishes on your wedding day" or "Sending lots of love to the bride and groom."
4. DON’T write one-sided messages
Do you know just the bride, but not the groom, or vice versa? Do your best to avoid a one-sided message in the wedding card. Always address the note to both people to show your support for their union.
5. DON’T write negative comments about the wedding
Never mention your distaste for the bride, the groom, any attendees, or any other details of the ceremony or the reception in the card. Bringing up these negative elements can cause unnecessary drama, and they can potentially upset those who read the message.